I am overly

sensitive. I think it is because in my day job, I have to deal with a lot of PR and worst case scenario situations.

So I am always aware that something in the yard might be offensive/inappropriate, etc. I am not too worried about it in general, I mean there are some people that find Halloween offensive, so to them anything I do is wrong. Not really worried about them, they will likely not visit the yard anyway.

But I am sensitive to hurting someones feelings or offend someone on a personal level.

So my initial reaction to filming the kids as ghosts was - no way. Someone who has lost a child is not going to find that very entertaining.

So I asked all our friends that had kids (and one I know who, unfortunately, had lost a child) and they all said I was being too sensitive.

I still was not convinced.

And....a week later, on the day we started filming.....still not liking the idea.

Until I saw the kids in the yard. They were having a great time and thought it was cool that they got to be ghosts like their parents. Yeah, this is going to work fine.

The first time it was shown in the yard and they were so excited.....I was glad I had come to terms with the whole project and thankful that husband and friends encouraged (okay, maybe pushed) me to let this be part of the yard.

I have learned a lesson about myself and my perception of the display. I was reminded that this is not to entertain myself and make me happy, and not just for the visitors.....but a creative outlet for many people.....even and now especially for the kids.